Authenticity advocates and heart-centered entrepreneurs cringe at the sound of this phrase – I know, I consider myself to be both. The idea of faking anything sounds terrible (and inauthentic) but I’ve discovered that the core intention of this advice has a lot of merit. (Are you gonna let one little word distract you from the wisdom?)
As with most good advice, there is a caveat… It’s great advice IF you are in transition to your next best self and you have a very clear vision of what that looks like for YOU.
The pitfall occurs when our definition of success is based on the life or business another person has created. We try to be like them, do like they do to the point where we start to sound like them, our websites morph into a mini-me version of theirs. And on it goes until your original vision is no longer visible. (But we’re modeling success – right? Um, thats a whole other conversation we could have!)
In this case the “fake it till you make it” concept has us wandering down a garden path taking us further away from our original desire to be a more successful version of ourselves. When we finally realize we’ve gone astray, the way back seems daunting and in many cases we feel completely lost.
It’s a very frustrating place to be which takes us back to “fake it till you make it”… How in the world can this be a good thing?
Let’s say that you’re on a mission to make 6-figures this year but up to this point you’ve struggled to break 30K/year. Your current identity is not going to get you to a six-figure year. So, what shifts need to happen in your identity (beliefs, behaviours, choices and actions) so you can experience this leap from 30K to 100K?
Here are a few questions to get you started…
What does success look like to you?
What do you want your life and business to be like?
What beliefs, behaviours, choices and actions (or in-action) must exist for you to be this more successful version of yourself?
Once you have this clearly – and authentically – defined, you can truly leverage the fake it till you make it concept. Now you can move forward taking action, making choices and behaving the way a 6-figure version of YOU would do.
“When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change” ~ Wayne Dyner
It sounds simple doesn’t it but it requires commitment and persistence.
Here’s some ways you can own this enhanced version of you sooner:
1. Share your goals with people who support you and believe in you (their belief will keep you going through the times when you lack belief in yourself)
2. Hire a coach or mentor to hold you accountable. They will talk you down from the ledge when you’re scared of truly owning this more successful vision of you.
If you are bursting with the desire to truly claim a more successful version of you the first step is to make the decision to do whatever it takes to make it happen. (The next step is to take action.)
You deserve to BE the woman you dream of becoming. How much longer will you push this dream aside?
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Like a lot of what we talk about when we get together, this is one of those huge paradoxes (paradoxi ??) this is complicated.
You really explained it well, though. It comes down to really knowing who you are and what you want. Without that you can easily get lost.
Great post!
Kim
.-= kimberly´s last blog ..Happiness: It’s all about perspective =-.
Hmmm… Paradoxi (gotta google that hahaha).
I totally agree. Without knowing who you are and what you really want it’s VERY easy to end up somewhere you don’t want to be.
Painting a really clear vision of our greater self allows us to fill in the gaps and identify the changes in thought and behavior (etc…) that are necessary to becoming it.
Woohoo! I love talking about this stuff xo